Happiness Begins With Me

Vikas Malkani

13th September 2017

 

Every morning is special, because the past is gone, and the future is yet to happen. Only today exists. If you choose to, you can make today an opportunity to be happy, consciously, no matter what!

There is plenty of evidence to show that happiness is beneficial for health. Happiness produces endorphins within the body, which strengthen the immune system and result in overall well-being.

 

So give yourself the gift of happiness today; both your mind and body will thank you for it. Happiness is simple, when you know how.

 

Here are 5 simple tips to help you.

 

1) BE AUTHENTIC

Ask yourself some key questions - What makes you happy at work? What makes you happy at home? What do you love to do? What are you currently doing that prevents you from experiencing joy?

 

You'll find that by putting your answers down on paper, they'll become clear more quickly and the actions you need to take more obvious and easier to initiate.

 

2) COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

 

We usually tell ourselves the story of what we lack, what others have that we don’t. Instead, begin every day by consciously counting your blessings and knowing the fact that you are in a better position than the majority of our world. Stay focused on your full-ness, not your empty-ness. This one practice will turn your life around.

 

3) STOP JUDGING

 

It's impossible to experience happiness when you're always judging others. Accept the truth that we are not here to judge one another. The next time you find yourself getting upset, ask, "Are you judging?" Judging others is often an unconscious habit that can be changed the moment you decide to stop doing it.

 

4) RAISE YOURSELF

 

Many people silently talk to themselves very negatively, yet they would never accept the same from a stranger, friend, or loved one. So become aware of your self-talk and if it’s negative, try this - For one week, simply commit to saying "stop" whenever you think a negative thought.

 

Carry a notepad and make a mark each time you catch yourself thinking negatively. And then, think of something you enjoy doing, something positive. You'll find that as the days go by, your negative thinking can quickly be reduced.

 

5) FOLLOW FUN

 

Fun is good. It's what children do naturally. Why do we stop pursuing fun as we get older?

 

Fun shouldn't be squeezed into a few weeks of vacation each year, while the rest of our life continues to be drudgery. And it shouldn't be squeezed into the last chapter of your life either, when you "get to" retire. Fun should be a daily experience!

 

But fun doesn't just happen. You have to make it a priority in your life. The wise know - happiness and fun are the reasons for living, not the symptom of it. Fun deserves to be a part of your life today, and forever.

 

Adopt this as a new rule – Follow Your Fun!

 

In my best-selling book The Little Manual of Happiness, I write “Happiness is now, or never!” Well, you can be happy now, as you read these words, or you can wait.

 

This is the perfect moment to be happy; in fact this is the only moment you’ll ever have. Happiness is a choice, and it begins with you.

 

So why delay? Choose to be happy today.

 

SoulCentre is Asia’s Premier Centre for Meditation, Mindfulness & Stress-Management.

 

For details & dates of our meditation programs, connect to www.soulcentre.org/events

 

 

3 Secrets From The Tao

Vikas Malkani, SoulCentre

16^th August 2017

 

The Tao Te Ching spoken by enlightened master Lao Tzu is one of my personal wisdom treasures. Every time I dive into its wisdom, I feel so touched, inspired, expanded and humbled!!

 

The amazing Tao Te Ching is made up of 81 short chapters that contain limitless wisdom. Only an enlightened master could have spoken so simply and so powerfully at the same time.

 

The Tao Te Ching is not a discussion or a debate, it’s a statement of reality as experienced by one man. It’s the distilled essence of this thing we call ‘Life’, as he saw it from a place of enlightenment.

 

The Tao is full of wonderful revelations and secrets, some completely contrary to common thought, and others so simple that they are easily missed. It’s a sharing that leaves one refreshed, empowered and curiously peaceful, even after only a few minutes of swimming in the ocean of wisdom it offers.

 

I offer you 3 powerful secrets from the teachings of Master Lao Tzu.

 

 

Tao Secret #1 - Decide your ‘Enough’ from a place of trust

 

Human desires have no end. Our thirst for more and more is insatiable. The Tao teaches that we have to consciously decide what is ‘enough’ for us, in different aspects of our life, and abide by that set point, else we will be on a search that never ends.

 

If we do not train our mind, we will continue to want more and more, create more and more, and drive ourselves harder and harder for a goal we never seem to reach. Meditation that leads to wisdom is the way.

 

Happiness comes when can be content with what we create, and this is possible only when we can live from a place of trust and decide what is ‘enough’ for us.

 

Reminds me of what Mahatma Gandhi once said, ‘The earth has enough for the needs of all men, but it doesn’t have enough for the wants of even one!’

 

Tao Secret #2 - Live in alignment with the world around you

 

The Tao teaches that we are meant to align ourselves with the world around us, and the universe we live in. it is not prudent to force the world to fit into our ideas of comfort and what we think is right and wrong.

 

Remember that the earth was here long before we arrived, the cosmos was spinning before we started our life, and manifold life forms we unconsciously extinguish for our comfort existed in balance before we decided to rule the world!

 

Realize that the universe supports us, but it doesn’t need our support. Thus it is wiser always to align with the universe, rather than force the universe to align with you.

 

If you simply spend a few minutes to research the harm that plastics are doing to the environment and the oceans around us, you will realize that Master Lao spoke to us with wisdom that is timeless, and especially relevant today.

 

Fit in and flow with the Universe; don’t force it to align with you!

 

Tao Secret #3 - Softness is stronger than hardness

 

Once you begin to meditate, or receive guidance from a person of wisdom, you realize that that is no need to be hard, harsh, rough or crude, in any and all aspects of your life. The Tao says that soft and flexible beats hard and rigid. The bamboo that bends is stronger than and will outlast the tree that doesn’t.

 

Softness is strength, flow is resilience, and flexibility is longevity.

 

Flow through life and whatever it presents you with; fight with nothing. Everything just presents an opportunity to manifest something better, and you can use whatever life presents to create what you want, if you come from a place of wisdom.

 

Thus, suffering can be a doorway to joy; struggle can open a window to simplicity; failure can become a trigger for realization!

 

Non-resistance is the way of the master, says Lao Tzu. Resist nothing, respond to everything!

 

I love the wisdom contained in the Tao Te Ching. I hope you have enjoyed and benefited from the 3 secrets I’ve shared above.

 

For the very first time in Singapore, I will be teaching ‘Secrets of the Tao Te Ching’ on 9 & 10 September 2017, at SoulCentre. Come and spend 2 days with me in a weekend of wisdom and enjoy a transformational experience with life minded students.

 

If you are keen to develop wisdom like Master Lao Tzu, I highly recommend our ‘Meditation Made Simple’ program as the perfect first step in your journey of awakening and wisdom.

 

Click here to see dates and register http://www.soulcentre.org/events ; www.soulcentre.org

What Is Enlightenment?

Vikas Malkani
SoulCentre®
2^nd August 2017

A question that has troubled spiritual teachers and students alike for thousands of years ... What Is Enlightenment?

Many words have been used to define enlightenment - moksha, awakening, samadhi, nirvana, universal consciousness, satori and so many more.

Here's the simplest metaphor to understand it.

Imagine you are asleep and dreaming that you are living a normal life. In the dream, everything seems real - what you eat, where you go, who you meet and what you do. You feel emotions, take actions and have experiences.

Everything seems real, very real in this dream.

And then suddenly, something happens and you wake up!

There is an immediate and transformational ah-ha! A realisation that 'I was asleep, and everything was just a dream. Now I am awake.’

That what I thought was real, was not real. In fact, this is reality.

You wake up from what you thought was real, and see reality as it is!

This is enlightenment, often also referred to as 'Awakening'.

The word 'enlightenment' is used to also denote 'being in the light of truth', a way of saying you woke up and actually see what's true.

What leads to it?

There are essentially only 3 ways:

1) The path of authentic meditation, which brings wisdom and tools that create inner transformation

2) Finding and following a genuine spiritual teacher who has experienced enlightenment, and who can guide you to the experience.

3) A big balance of positive karma, which leads to the search for spiritual wisdom and a spiritual teacher, which eventually brings awakening!

The enlightened masters have stated that we are all on the path to enlightenment already, every one of us.

It's just that we are all progressing at different paces. But eventually, enlightenment is the final destination for all of us.

Knowing this, why delay?

There you have it - enlightenment made simple!

Learn Meditation and Mindfulness at SoulCentre® and take charge of your own health, happiness and peace of mind.

In just a few sessions through our unique Meditation Made Simple program, you will learn some valuable techniques that you can use on an ongoing basis.

At SoulCentre® we conduct meditation classes right from beginner levels and you have the option of continuing the training to become certified as a teacher should you choose to.

Do get in touch with us at info@soulcentre.org for more information.

Ever Wanted To Run Your Own Business?

Sally Forrest
5th July 2017  

There is something exciting and liberating about wanting to start your own business.

The thought of being your own boss, living life on your terms and watching the cash roll in is intoxicating.

Anyone can indeed start a business; however, the skill comes in making the business successful, profitable and sustaining the business over a number of years.

Over 50% of businesses fail within the first 18 months and over 95% of new businesses fail within the first 5 years.

The statistics are real and sobering.

In today’s economy, it is easier than ever to start a business, yet the figures remain the same for failure rates.

In fact, sitting in Singapore and reading the news over the past month, there have been report after report of smaller businesses closing their doors, and calling it a day.

So, what advice can I share with business owners from my experience?

Here are 3 top tips:

 

1)  CASH FLOW IS KING

 

If you start a business and it’s run from your home and you are a one-man band, then life is certainly easier. Overheads are lower; however, it may not be seen by many as a true business which is scalable.

Once you start renting an office, opening a space and employing staff, then cash flow needs careful consideration.

Suddenly you can find yourself needing to make $15,000 - $30,000 +  a month simply to “stand still” and pay the bills.

A business needs to ensure it has at least 12 months of cash available to cover its overheads before it begins operation, and at least 6 months on an ongoing basis to cover any eventualities.

 

2)  SKILL SETS

 

Hire staff with the correct skill sets and ones that match the brand.

For any business to succeed, staff are critical. As a business owner, you will need to invest time, energy and effort into getting the correct staff and ensuring they are capable and trained to do their roles.

Great staff bring amazing results.

 

If staff become a cost and are not adding value to the business, then it’s time to review.

An even worse scenario is that staff become a burden and actually slow the business down, need constant management and do not bring in return on investment.

In this situation, it’s time to make tough decisions and to review how the business is staffed.

 

Every member of staff needs to understand the return on investment equation and if they are not able to see that they have a role to play in bringing in business, delighting customers, making efficiency improvements or removing the burden from your shoulders, then it’s time to let them go.

 

Larger companies can carry “extra staff”, however smaller companies soon feel the pinch and need to take action swiftly.

 

3)  CUSTOMER FOCUS

 

Customers bring success to the business. The more the merrier.

 

No customers = no business, the equation is that simple.

 

Listen to your customers and take action on their needs.

What do they want from your business?

What products or services do they need from you?

Identify your top 20 customers and delight them.

Get into the mind-set of your customers.

 

It is easier to keep existing customers happy than it is to keep having to find new customers.

Customers are the life force of the business, delight them and you will find your business is more smooth sailing.

 

I hope my top 3 tips have given you some food for thought.

If you have a great business idea then I encourage you to move ahead.

Start out with awareness, take correct actions and the success will be yours.

 

If you want to book one on one business coaching with us at SoulCentre then please drop an e-mail to: info@soulcentre.org

 

We focus on creating the correct mind-set that brings you results.

 

Sally Forrest

BSC,MRPharmS,MBA

Managing Director
SoulCentre Pte. Ltd.

Cannot Sleep? Learn To Meditate

Vidhya Shailesh,

SoulCentre® Certified Meditation Teacher

29th June 2017

 

Unable to sleep even though you are very tired? Endless nights of sleeplessness followed by days of lethargy and sleepiness can sap your energy and leave you feeling miserable. Though insomnia or sleeplessness can be caused by many factors, stress is one of the primary causes for people tossing and turning in bed. An over stimulated mind, too much activity, absence of a winding down routine can all lead to an inability to fall asleep. Erratic mealtimes, lack of exercise, worry and emotional turmoil along with an inability to let go can be some other reasons.

 

 

Sleep is a way for our body and our mind to rest and rejuvenate. Therefore it is essential that we get our daily quota of sleep. Different people can have different sleep requirements. While some might feel refreshed with just 5 hours of sleep, some others might require 7 hours at minimum. A deep restful sleep will ensure your body feels rested and the mind refreshed. Sleeping too little or too much can harm you physically and can also dull the mind. Here are some tips from meditation and mindfulness you can use to ensure you have a restful night of sleep:

 

1)   LEARN TO MEDITATE

 

Meditation is a powerful way to train your mind to focus on the moment. The various techniques of meditation and the practices, when learnt properly bring our attention to the present moment and teach us to reduce the flurry of thoughts in our minds. Meditation and mindfulness has been scientifically proven to help with anxiety, stress and worry by bringing the mind to the present moment. A technique as simple as focusing on your breath can help create an internal state of relaxation and wellbeing. Lie down on the bed, place your hands over your belly and bring your focus on the breath. As you breathe, observe the rhythmic pattern of the breath. Continue to do this for a few minutes. This helps clear your mind, relaxes it and helps you settle down. It is also a very powerful way to quiet the chatter of the mind. Meditation teaches you to let go and to be in better control of your emotions. The above is just one of the several meditation techniques you learn and benefit from at SoulCentre®.

 

2)   HAVE A BEDTIME ROUTINE

 

A routine takes your mind off the stresses of the day and helps you focus on the task on hand. Sometimes even reading a book can help you detach from the day's events. Writing a journal, reflecting on the day gone by positively, listening to some soft music or even taking a short stroll in the garden are different ways of allowing your mind and your body to ease into a relaxing state.

 

3)   AVOID STIMULANTS

 

Avoid stimulants of all sorts before going to bed. This includes food based stimulants, medication, coffee, tea, carbonated drinks, sugar or even your laptops, phones and tablets. Electronic devices keep the mind stimulated and active. An active mind finds it very difficult to unwind. Keep a routine of switching off all electronic devices by 10pm.

 

4)   OFFER GRATITUDE FOR THE DAY GONE BY

 

Develop the habit of mentally offering gratitude for the day gone by. Think of the day and the events of the day positively and offer gratitude for it. Gratitude helps the mind become peaceful, calm and happy. Developing this bedtime routine helps you make peace with the events of the day and also helps you set the foundation for the next day. Most importantly it ensures you end the day in a happy frame of mind. At SoulCentre®, we believe a happy mind is positive and peaceful. And a happy mind finds it much easier to settle into sleep.

 

Learn Meditation and Mindfulness at SoulCentre® and take charge of your own health, happiness and peace of mind.

 

In just a few sessions through our unique Meditation Made Simple program, you will learn some valuable techniques that you can use on an ongoing basis. A regular meditation practice benefits you in ways beyond your imagination. You feel happier, healthier, and more peaceful, relaxed and will definitely sleep better.

 

So get in touch with us at info@soulcentre.org for more information or visit www.soulcentre.org.

Stage Fright? Anxiety? Overcome It With Meditation

Vikas Malkani,

Founder of SoulCentre

21st June 2017

 

Stage fright can happen long before you even get near a stage. The mere thought of standing in front of an audience can make your heart flutter or pound, the palms of your hand get cold and sweaty, and your knees start to shake and your mouth go dry. Your stomach may even get upset.

 

Public speaking is one of our most common fears, being rated above flying, financial loss, sickness, and even death. The fear can get so bad that some people may become physically ill before getting on stage. But this fear, often called performance anxiety or stage fright, is actually about the underlying social psychology of exposing oneself to an audience.

It happens to even the most experienced performers and even to ordinary people going for a job interview. Celebrities with stage fright include Rod Stewart, Barbara Streisand, Mel Gibson, and Carol Burnett. World class speakers like Anthony Robbins have admitted feeling queasy before their first performances and many prominent athletes tend to suffer from it as well.

Like most phobias, stage fright is a natural response to situations that are perceived to be dangerous or somehow detrimental. Psychologists who work with stage fright patients describe how their inner talk tends to focus on those things that could go wrong during the performance leading to a potential failure.

Studies have shown that these fears can be driven by perfectionism, an ongoing desire for personal control, fear of failure and an intense anxiety about not being able to perform properly when the time comes.

Psychologists have also observed that people with stage fright tend to place a high value on being liked and regarded with high esteem.

Thankfully, there are a number of things that can be done about it.

 

Here are 3 ways which will help you overcome your stage fright and performance anxiety:- 

 

1) MEDITATION – Meditation is the science of training your mind to serve you rather than to harm you. Meditation is an ancient process that is scientific and structured and most efficient when learned from a qualified and capable teacher. By training your mind, you can overcome the fear that arises out of uncontrolled negative thinking.

Here are some strategies that meditation offers to overcome your anxiety and stage freight.

Meditation Strategy 1

Keep Calm – Because of performance anxiety, people often rush through their presentation, speech or other performances. As a result, in spite of knowing everything, they fail to give their best. So keep calm and start slowly. Give yourself time to get used to the audience and get into you comfortable pace.

Meditation Strategy 2

Take Deep Breaths - Be it stress or nervousness, deep breaths can provide you with that feeling of relaxation. So 5-10 minutes prior to going on stage, take deep breaths for about 3 minutes to keep yourself relaxed and calm.

Meditation Strategy 3

Visualization - Visualization techniques can be particularly effective as it creates a positive image in a person's mind about the desired outcome. Mentally creating images of a successful event, and even projecting oneself after the successful performance alleviates feelings of anxiety.

Meditation Strategy 4

Think about it - Visualize yourself on the stage, standing in front of an audience that’s listening, smiling and applauding you. Think about how talented you are, and imagine yourself in past performances where you impressed your audience. Change your point of view and think about how badly the audience needs the information you want to give them.

2) FOCUS ON THE GIVING NOT THE RECEIVING - Stage fright is not really about the fear of the stage. It is the fear of being laughed at and judged by the people who are watching you. In reality, everyone present in the audience is not there to laugh at you, judge you or criticise you. They are there to watch you perform and hence you need to give your best shot. So, instead of focusing on the people and what they are going to think about you, focus on what you have to present and do it the best way you can. This will ease the pressure which is already building.

3) PRACTICE MAKES IT EASY - One of the most effective ways to deal with stage fright is to get on stage as much as possible, regardless of the discomfort. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Vikas Malkani is a Mind and Life Mastery Coach. Vikas is also an authority on meditation and mindfulness and has taught its secrets to CEO’s, Hollywood starts, Royalty and sports champions.

He has been called the #1 wisdom coach in the world.

Connect with Vikas at info@soulcentre.org and start creating your new life!

Life Coaching - How does it help me?

Do you ever feel as if life is simply passing you by and you are not really living the life you dreamed of?

This happens to all of us at some point in time and often it is because we have stopped really focussing on what we want to get out of life. Instead we start to please others and do what is expected of us, fulfilling the multiple roles that we have taken on and end up like a hamster running round and round on a wheel without much thought to where or what we are doing.

So at this moment, as you are reading this blog, I want you to STOP and ask yourself this one question.

What do I want from my life?

Yes YOU – the person reading this

What do YOU want for YOUR life?

For one moment forget your roles, forget your kids, your job, your partner, your dog, your shopping list, your facebook account, your need to be busy… and simply think about YOU!

If you need some help with this question, then give us a call and book a one-on-one life coaching session.

So what is a Life Coach and what will a Life Coach support and guide you on?

• A life coach is someone who will ask you questions that really make you think.
• A life coach is someone you can trust.
• A life coach is someone who will push you just a bit further than you could ever imagine is possible.
• A life coach will listen to you fully and without interrupting you.
• A life coach is someone who will hold up a mirror and help you see what limiting beliefs you may be carrying.
• A life coach will not judge you.
• A life coach is someone who will see your strengths and start to build on these.
• A life coach will also support you on any weaker areas, however this will not be their focus – after all your strengths are what will take you higher.
• A life coach will help you see the patterns of your life and will give you action points to change.
• A life coach will bring change to your life for the better.

Change is EASY – it begins with one thought, followed by ACTION.

So what are you waiting for?

A fun life awaits you - maximise your potential.

How to be truly happy - 5 Essential Secrets

Do you ever feel caught up in all the mundane things of life while happiness seems to elude you? Do you feel like life is just passing you by? Do you sometimes feel that you are doing so much but that you are not truly happy?

Life is too short to postpone happiness until the conditions are right. So if we are waiting for something is our world to be just right before we become happy, then we are keeping ourselves in an endless cycle of waiting!

Everywhere around, people are trying desperately to find their happiness in relationships, in expensive cars, mansions, overseas holidays, money, the perfect place or the perfect job – and yet after they have experienced some or all of the above, they are still not happy.

Happiness is the special sauce that makes everything else in life worthwhile. And if happiness is missing, then even a life full of wealth and health is not meaningful.

"If a person is happy, life is worthwhile" - Vikas

So how can one become truly happy?

What are the essentials to happiness?

Let me guide you to the 5 essential secrets that will create real happiness for you.

SECRET NO: 1 – START YOUR DAY WITH GRATITUDE

All of us have so much to be grateful for; it’s just that most times, we don’t realize it.

Gratitude helps to cultivate a positive mindset, which will help you to accept yourself for who you really are. Remember, as your day begins, you don’t know what the day will bring to you, but you can decide what you will bring to this day! So choose to bring a grateful and happy ‘you’ to your day and see the benefits happen.

Start your day with a positive attitude and a positive mind-set. Spend 3 minutes before you get active in the morning reminding yourself what is great in your life.

Start your day on a positive note, because a spiritual law is that whatever is inside you is what comes out of you. So if you create happiness inside by being grateful, you will ooze happiness all day, which in turn will make your day a happy one!

SECRET NO: 2 – DURING THE DAY, STRENGHTEN YOUR POSITIVE MUSCLES

As your day begins to unfold, many types of things, results and people will be encountered.

No matter what comes your way, choosing to be positive will help you to stay strong within the challenge and handle it in a peaceful and powerful manner. Even when things are difficult, try being positive and strive to make the best of whatever situation you’re in. It will help make even the most challenging situations easier to bear.

So as you live your life during the day, look for the positive not for the negative.

Often, during the day, repeat positive affirmations about what you want. Do so with faith, feelings, intention and focus. Your mind is the filter for this world around you, so look for the good in every situation, and you are sure to see it.

“Don’t gain all the wealth and lose your soul” - Vikas

SECRET NO: 3 – JUST FOR TODAY, ACCEPT IMPERFECTION

It’s a fact that we all have imperfections. When we stop worrying about our imperfections and what others think about us, and just start being what we are, then we can truly offer the world the best we have. For as long as we are living a life of pretense, we are sure to be tense, and real happiness will elude us.

Moreover, you can’t expect people to be perfect all the time. Perfection comes when you’re ok with imperfection.

Our ideas about the way the world works are based, in part, upon our expectations. Those expectations color our experience, good or bad and influence our reactions and responses to just about everything and everyone that we encounter.

Expectations help us form a world view, but they can also skew that world view in unexpected and sometimes unwanted ways. The more the expectations, the more the disappointment.

Being a perfectionist will not make you happy, I promise. So ease up a little bit, check the expectations you carry and lower them if necessary, and see how much more you can enjoy life.

You will be happily surprised.

SECRET NO: 4 - TRAVEL LIGHT

Keep your mind light. Carry the good experiences with you, and the lessons from the bad experiences. Both will help you and make you a better person. But carrying negative memories will only take your happiness away.

The best short-cut to happiness is meditation, which teaches you to train your mind to be calm and happy. Never put the key of your happiness in anyone else’s hands.

“Life is not a race, don’t make it so” - Vikas

SECRET NO: 5 – HUG TODAY. IT WON’T COME BACK.

So many people keep themselves constantly busy, but spend their whole life waiting to start living. And in the meantime, this beautiful gift from life called ‘today ‘is passing by forever!

Give your attention to the value of today. This day is your life, and you are alive only today! So value it, cherish it and live it fully while it is here. Because it’s soon going to be gone forever.

Take action in your life on the problems you face, if any. Any action is better than burying your head in the sand, hiding from the world, and more importantly yourself. But at the same time, don’t let your pains and problems define your experience; you also have a lot of blessings in your life, so let that be the flavor of the day!

"Create happiness, don’t wait for it!" – Vikas

Quit waiting for life to work out. Make a change and take control. You control your own happiness; don’t waste any more time waiting for it to come find you.

So embrace and HUG your life today. Bring some happiness, understanding and gratitude to your life today!

“H – Happiness; U – Understanding; G – Gratitude” - Vikas

There is always a lot in life to be happy and grateful for. Start living in the only moment that matters, right now. The more you are focused on the past or the future, the more you are missing out on happiness right now.

Pay attention to this day and make yourself truly happy, no matter what!